{"id":20861,"date":"2026-02-13T00:31:03","date_gmt":"2026-02-13T06:31:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/?p=20861"},"modified":"2026-02-13T00:31:04","modified_gmt":"2026-02-13T06:31:04","slug":"it-is-okay-to-hold","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/2026\/02\/13\/it-is-okay-to-hold\/","title":{"rendered":"It is okay to hold"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6318.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" src=\"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6318-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"your heart outside\" class=\"wp-image-20862\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6318-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6318-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6318-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6318-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6318.jpg 1600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">your heart outside<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6322.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" src=\"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6322-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"of your body for days,\" class=\"wp-image-20863\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6322-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6322-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6322-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6322-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6322.jpg 1600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">of your body for days,<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6337.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" src=\"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6337-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"months, years \u2014Nayyirah Waheed\" class=\"wp-image-20864\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6337-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6337-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6337-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6337-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6337.jpg 1600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">months, years<br\/><em>\u2014Nayyirah Waheed<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":20862,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20861","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/DSCF6318.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20861","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20861"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20861\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":20865,"href":"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20861\/revisions\/20865"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/20862"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20861"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20861"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tom-lehr.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20861"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}